The premise of the movie, 50 First Dates.
You may remember a movie that came out in 2004 called 50 First Dates, starring Adam Sandler and Drew Barrymore. It was a cute little romance about a young man who falls in love with a woman suffering from a brain injury resulting from a car accident. The twist in their affair is that every morning when the woman wakes up, she starts the day new, not remembering anything that occurred since the accident. Essentially, every time she meets the love of her life, it’s like meeting him for the first time. This provides both the humor and poignancy of the plot. But it also provides a little food for thought: What if you woke up every morning and it was like the past didn’t exist?
I don’t want to carry this theme to an extreme. Obviously, we learn from our past. Personally, I don’t believe there’s a road I’ve traveled that has been wasted, even the hard ones, even the ones I’m quite sure resulted from my own lapses in judgment. And also equally obvious, I’m so grateful for precious memories, especially those involving my children.
But sometimes the past haunts me in very subtle ways. There are tapes that play in my head—maybe an errant lesson incorporated from my childhood, a hurtful comment carelessly made I’ve allowed to penetrate my self-esteem and heart, a regret, old beliefs that I’ve accepted as truth, slightly off messages I’ve learned about faith, feelings of rejection...and on it goes. I’m sure you could fill in a few of your own messages that continue to feed behavior and beliefs you no longer want in your life.
But what if today you woke up with a form of amnesia and all you knew was today...what choices you want to make...what doors you want to open and walk through...what writing you want to try or music you want to make...what beliefs you want to incorporate or let go of?
What better time for amnesia than January 1st ?
At the level of the spirit, everything is always unfolding perfectly.
I love the continual immediacy of this statement. As I sit down to eat, head out to run an errand, run into someone at the grocery store, fold laundry at the Laundromat because our dryer broke and replacing it is not in the budget, as someone comes to mind and I send them a note, or I struggle with family illness, and, yes, even as I write an article, post or book--at the level of the spirit, everything is unfolding perfectly. I don't have to cling to the past or worry about tomorrow. I just have to let today unfold.
If I allow my heart to settle on that thought, it changes my view about 2014. If we let go of the past--continually working towards an amnesia that rids us of all our yukky, negative recordings--and let today unfold perfectly, what doors could open to us, recognizable and ready to walk through?
Happy New Year,